Why I Write Queer Fiction
Being gay isn’t always easy. Being gay in Ireland can be even more difficult. It’s also not always as hard as it feels. Irish Catholic guilt is stronger than you think.
Being gay was illegal in Ireland until 1993; in 2015, a huge majority passed a referendum to give gay marriage equal status with same-sex marriage.
What I write is fiction. But just because the actions, conversations and characters aren’t real, there are many events and people who have gone through similar.
I write fantasies between consenting adults with complicated emotions. Emotions are always complicated: don’t judge people because they have them.
Fictional relationships may contain scenes and acts you are not familiar with. That doesn’t mean everyone does it: it just means these characters are trying it out.
In the world of fictional fantasy, there are few risks; in the real-world, those risks are easy to forget. Use protection, know how it works, and never do something you are uncomfortable with.
Be honest with yourself: it’s easier and causes less stress and pain than a lie. When you are honest with yourself, it’s up to you to decide how honest you are with other people.
Other relationships always look different from the outside. That doesn’t mean they are better or worse than yours.
Fantasy is good. Being honest with yourself is good. Learning about your body is good. Don’t let anyone take that away from you.
Everyone hates parts of their body: trust the people who can see all of it and who appreciate every part of it. Don’t trust people who can’t see beyond one part of your body, whether the size or shape of your genitals your body hair or your scars. Love them or hate them, they are just a small part of you.